Bridezilla!

     Despite my title I am not a bridezilla nor am I turning into one! But I now realize why so many wonderful, normal girls can turn into such a beast once they are engaged (or for some even before!). The cake must be this flavor and this many tiers and feed the entire city because the more people you have at your wedding the more you gifts you get, I mean the more you are loved. There are a million and one ways to get caught up into wedding myths!

     But I would like to challenge them, who says I have to spend thousands of dollars on a party that only lasts a few hours? Who says I have to have a cinderella-esq dress or that my prince charming must lose his arm and leg to buy me a big rock to wear on my finger? According to a 2005 CNNMoney article the average wedding costs is close to $27,000!!!! Yikes! This is pure craziness.
     I should stop here and point out that I am not at all against weddings and their traditions, but I do question why we have some of these traditions. Why do we spend so much money? Don't get me wrong it is a wonderful wonderful thing to celebrate; the marriage of two people who love each other enough to commit to saying I do a million plus times over the course of the rest of their lives. It is going to be my joy to celebrate with my family and friends the union of Doug and I, but we are not going to go into debt doing it.
    I suppose I am ranting about this all because it is so easy to get caught up in thinking I have to have certain things for my wedding to be any good. I looked at pictures and saw the beautifully decorated tables, centerpieces, guest books that are more than just a book, gifts for the guests, lights, three course meals...on and on and on! It overwhelmed me. But I stopped, paused and took a deep breath. Those things are just things. I needed to decide what was most important to me about a wedding. I discovered that nicely decorated tables were near the bottom of my list. As I am recovering from all the images of white dresses, cake, flower arrangements and cute flower girls I am finding out what Doug and I want our wedding to look like, and how much we are able to spend on it to make it a wonderful day for all in attendance.
     So my prayer is that we (mostly me) would not get caught up in what everyone else in America is doing, and focus on what is going to bring God the most glory out of our wedding day. And I don't think what the cake looks like is at the top of His list either! If you have any advice, ideas, tips, hints, stories, anything you think of, PLEASE share it with me! ...and thanks for letting me rant a little. I just needed to get that all out.


"Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things." -Colossians 3:1-2